need advice ..

[sizzlykisses]

i register here to get an advice ..

i am 1 month pregnant, and i really dont know what to do .. im just 20 years old .. a fresh graduate of bshrm, since im not expecting this to happen .. i tried to palaglag this .. i drink what they say is the medicine for palaglag ..

gusto ko ipalaglag to kasi kakagraduate ko nga lang and my family were hoping na magkawork na ko .. dami kung pressure ngaun ..

dami akong nabasa na delikado nga ang magpalaglag .. its either matanggal ung baby or ako ang mag suffer ..

di ko masabi sa family ko kasi im afraid what may happen to my father which is nag suffer na dati sa stroke .. baka kung anu mangyari sa kanya if sinabi ko to ..

please advice me .. nagdadalawang isisp pa rin ako till now ee ..

[wendal]

asan na yung father ng baby mo?
kakayaninkaya ng emosyon mo pagdating ng panahon o pagnagpalaglag ka ngayon?

tinanon ko yan kasi 1) may pananagutan yung ama ng magiging anak mo. 2) mahirap balikan ng mga nakaraan. maaring maging pasan krus mo sya sa buong buhay mo.

mabuti siguro sabihin mo muna sa nanay mo, sa mga kapatid o kahit sino sa pamilya na tingin mo makakaunawa syo dahil sa bandang huli sila pa rin magiging sandalan mo.

[BabeAng14]

alam mo .

ang friend ko .
UP student siya .
mataas ang grades .
performer sa school .
nag-eexcel lagi .

hindi sila mayaman .
at ginagapang lang ng Mama niya na nasa Saudi ang pag-aaral niya .
forclosed na bahay nila .
may kapatid pa siyang magka-college .

sa hirap ng sitwasyon nila .
bigla siyang na-inlove .
ang malas .
sa mali pa na lalaki .

naturalmente .
nabuntis .

FEARS .
- paano na ang buhay ko ?
- paano ang mga sasabihin ng ibang tao ?
- paano ang iisipin nila ?
- paano na ang pamilya ko ?
- paano na ang pag-aaral ko ?
- paano na ang kinabukasan ko ?

saan na ngayon ang friend ko ?
nasa tabi ko .
habang nagtataype ako nito .
hihi .
joke .

what i mean is .
nasa tabi ko siya .
sinusuportahan ko ang desisyon niya .
3 years old na ang anak niya .
huminto siya ng pag-aaral .
pinalaki ang bata na walang ama .
binuhay niya anak niya na siya lang .
people ridiculed her because of what happened .
they would always say "matalino raw nagpakaboba naman" .

but you know what ?
she stood her ground .
mahal na mahal niya ang anak niya .
nagtatrabaho siya ngayon at nagtitiis dahil sa anak niya .
pero ni minsan hindi niya binunton ang sisi sa anak niya .
wala itong kasalanan .
ito ang kaligayahan niya ngayon .

mahirap sa umpisa .
sa tradisyon at kultura natin ay maituturing itong isang bagay na kahiya-hiya .
maraming pasaring at pambabato ang mararanasan mo .
tanggapin mo ang lahat ng ito, sis .
dahil kaakibat na ito nang pinili mong tahakin ang landas na ito .
pinili mo kaya panindigan mo .

sana .
wag mo nang dagdagan pa ang mga kabataang umiiyak ngunit hindi naririnig ng lipunan .

[oversoul1404]

iha, ganyan talaga ang pakiramdam sa umpisa, parang gusto mo ipalaglag kasi parang hindi mo kaya. i wont question your motives, pero consider these if magpapalaglag ka nga:

1. posibleng magkaron ng infection
2. yung gastos: i think it costs around 10k+
3. the pain: sa pagkatanda ko 2 session ata yan. 1st, may ilalagay na rubber dun sa organ mo then babalik ka after. tapos after a couple of days, babalik ka para sa abortion proper. susundut-sundutin daw yun para makuha.
4. yung immediate after effect: yung barkada ko dati, 1 week sya hindi makagalaw, and kelangan pa syang i-nurse ng mga housemates nya.
5. long term after effect: pain on the uterus area tuwing malamig.

so, there you have it.

[BabeAng14]

whoa .

practical ang approach ng advice .
ang sakin psychological .

hihi .

[FreyaLuna]

Hi Sizzlykisses,

I understand that you're in a tight spot -- being a fresh grad without a job yet is difficult enough, and and an unplanned baby on the way will only complicate matters for you.

But before rushing into abortive procedures, you need to consider the following:

-- If your family finds out about your abortion, wouldn't it affect your family equally as finding out about your pregnancy? If that happens, do you have a plan for it?
-- Can you live with the idea of having aborted your own child for the rest of your life?
-- Should there be any complications following your abortion, especially if it's self-induced, do you have a Plan B?

On the other hand,

-- Are you ready for parenthood should your baby come to term despite your abortive procedures? Have you considered preparing yourself for it, financially and logistically?
-- What does the baby's father have to say about this?

It's your body and you have the right to do with it as you will. But you need to fully understand the long-term consequences of your actions. Whether you lose your baby or carry it out to full term, you will have to come clean to your family -- they deserve your honesty. If you think you cannot handle their reaction, then this is the time that you need to grow up and grow a backbone. You cannot keep hiding forever.

I graduated from college unknowingly pregnant and without a job in the offing. My parents were deceased and I had no contact at all with my relatives, so I only relied on my husband back when we weren't married yet. I didn't even have my own bank account -- I was practically penniless back then. My future in-laws didn't take the news of my pregnancy well, to say the least. Even my friends freaked out. Yet somehow things worked out for me -- the day I found out about my [unplanned] pregnancy, a friend called up with a job offer. It was very difficult at first, having to balance finances, motherhood, my own health issues, relationship issues, work, social, and family life especially when I wasn't ready for it all. But it did work out, and I've no regrets about having my child.

You're not the only one who has had to face the consequences of an unplanned pregnancy. There are other women out there in much worse situations than you or me, and they've have managed to turn it around and thrive. And let me tell you, no one is really ready for parenthood the first time, even couples who have prepared for it. So if you think you aren't ready, guess what, so were your parents when they first had a child.

Of course, if your abortion turns out successfully then you can carry on with your career. It really depends on you and what you value the most.

Still, try to explore more possible solutions to your predicament first. Think! You didn't exercise foresight at the time of conception, so this is your chance to do so.

Good luck.

[Aga Mulat]

Ang tindi ng suliranin mo, iha. Pero to let you know, this thing na "unexpected" na pagbubuntis is plain ol BS and is just repeated over and over by many girls. All morality is out the window. I'm in no position to say do not abort nor am I in the position to say go with abortion.

Ang masasabi ko lamang is do the responsible thing. Kung ipapa abort mo, then do it right. Go to a clinic na expert dun at may malinis na reputasyon at hinde yung kanto-kanto lamang ang lugar or isang kwarto sa kung saang sulok ng siyudad. Wag kang gagawa ng "self-abortion". Kulitin mo yung lalake mo na tulungan ka nya sa gastos at samahan ka sa clinic at daanan mo sa takutan kung hinde siya kikilos. Bantaan mo na kapag di ka nya tulungan eh you will make his life miserable. He may deny it in the beginning pero kung kukulitin mo siya o ipagsasabi mo sa pamilya nya ang ginawa nya then hopefully matauhan siya. Tutal naman either way you lost. If you don't pursue his support then you lost might as well.

If you go for keeping the baby then do it right na sabihan mo na pamilya mo. Magalit man sila o what of course magagalit muna yun. Then paghandaan mo ang reaction nila at desisyon nila para sayo. Who knows, your family may say keep the baby, or they may say they will help you with abortion.

Either way talaga your family is your best bet. Kahit pagalitan ka sa umpisa natural lang yun sa kanila then kapag huminahon na ang lahat....they will come to their senses. You must be prepared and accept all consequences.

I just hope that no matter the outcome na you will realize what sizzlykisses can get you.

[lovesong]

... well mahirap talaga yang sitwasyon mo.. pero ate....please.. iniisip mo palang yan kasalanan na sa Diyos.. wag mo na gawin! mas malaking kasalanan..please please..

... oo makakatakas ka sa responsibilidad mo sa pagpapalaki ng anak mo pero di ka makakatakas sa responsibilidad mo sa Diyos... pumatay ka na ng taong kasing edad mo.. yung makakalaban kahit papano.. wag lang ng isang sanggol sa iyong sinapupunan na walang alam, walang kalaban-laban!

5th Commandment of God: THOU SHALL NOT KILL!

... at isa pang bagay... wga ka sanang magagalit sakin...

you did have sex...
you should be ready to get pregnant..
may condom man o meron...

kung ayaw mo pala talaga mabuntis... bakit ka pumayag na alam mo na???
wala sanang nangyari kung hindi ka pumayag..

alam mo bang isa ding kasalanan sa Diyos yun...

SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE is ALWAYS SINFUL.

... anyways... tapos na, nangyari na... wala na magagawa... wag mo nalang dagdagan ang pagkakasala.. =)

Every child is a blessing from God.you have received it you just have to accept it to be yours. Always look at the brighter side, God gave you that one because He trusts you to take care of that child and for a very special reason that will surely be best for you.


Hindi ka nag-iisa sa mundo na nagkakaganyan. May mag pinipiling buhayin at alagaan ang bata at may mga ***** na hindi... Wag kang *****!!


peace!

[askman111]

wag na wag nyo po papalaglag baby nyo kasi 1. kasalanan sa dyos yan 2. para kanang pumatay ng tao, dapot po may lakas loob k nasavhin sa kanila un kc anak k nila e at dapat panagutan ng ama.

[hersmile]

I agree with FreyaLuna... you're not the only who has gone through this...so don't feel like you'll never make it and that you're alone. I also agree that you have to figure out what you value the most.

Back in my early 20's...I always told my ex if I get pregnant, I'm having an abortion. It was vital for me that I finish school and get started with my career. I also figure it wouldn't be fair to have a child when I'm not prepared for it, nor even want it. I know it'll affect my entire life...in a negative light.

I also personally think giving up a baby for adoption is a silly option for me. Imagine, all those troubles for 9 months, go through the birth process, only to give the baby away. No way! But then, if I kept the baby, I will always look back and feel like I missed out...because of that one "mistake". Most importantly for me right now, I value my personal freedom (time to do whatever I want). Even now...I'm in my late 20's...I still don't want a child. I can imagine getting married and not having kids at all...but who knows, I might change my mind.

Write out your pros and cons on a piece of paper, so you can really see it and you'll start realizing what's more important for you.

As the others have posted, there are a lot of mental and physical downfalls to having an abortion. You should really look into it before making a final decision. You should understand the whole process of abortion, as well as the possible aftermath. I think IF you do decide to get an abortion, you must inform the father prior to it. I also think you should tell your family.

[har0ld]

i tried to palaglag this

No! No! Why you tried to palaglag that ha?!

Ilagay mo ang kalagayan mo sa batang yan na nasa sinapupunan mo tapos ipapalaglag ka.

Matutuwa ka kaya?

Ipagtapat mo na lang sa ibang kapamilya mo. Huwag muna dun sa tatay mo at baka mapaano.

Sa umpisa normal lang na magalit ang mga magulang pero pag nakita na nila yung bata, makakalimutan na nila ang "kasalanan" mo.

Kahit anong mangyari ituloy mo na 'yan. Mas malaki pagsisisi mo pag kinitil mo ang buhay niyan.

[chukchak]

FAMILY MO SILA. sa una magagalit kasi nadisappoint mo sila. Pero pamilya parin ang makakatulong sayo at makakaunawa ng mabuti kesa sa iba. In every action, God has a reason, and you will learn from it. Mas lalong magagalit pamilya mo kapag nalamang ipalaglag mo or pinalaglag mo, baka nga itakwil ka pa at isumpa ka pa nila noh. Tsaka, for sure, pagsisisihan mo pang habang buhay pag ginawa mo yan.

[suave]

Iha,

Kung ako ikaw ipagtatapat ko ang lahat sa pamilya ko.
Sabi nga kasi: The truth no matter how it hurts will always set you free.

Kung ako ikaw, di dapat kasama sa options ang pagpapalaglag sa bata.
Nagpakasarap kayo ng BF mo dati, panahon na para danasin nyo naman yung kalakip na pait ng sarap na yun.

Napunta rin sa ganyang sitwasyon ang asawa ko noong panahong magkabuntisan kami.
Halos pareho lang kayo, 23 sya noon at inaasahan ding tumulong sa kanila ng pinansyal.
Pero mas matapang sya saýo dahil never nyang naisip na ipalaglag yung bata kahit daw di ko sya panagutan.

Ang kaso di ako ikaw… at di ikaw ako… di ikaw ang asawa ko at di sya ikaw…
Sundin mo lang kung ano ang nasa puso mo.
Walang maling desisyon, basta paninindigan mo yung desisyon mong yun hanggang dulo.

Mas mabuti pang magkamali gamit ang sarili mong desisyon kesa nagkamali ka gamit ang payo ng iba.
Dahil kahit ano pang sabihin namin dito, buhay mo yan at desisyon mo yan.

[azumi]

1) Pag pinalaglag mo ang isang tao na nabuo dahil sa ginawa mo, hindi mo na ulit maibabalik yan.
Wala ng paraan para buhayin ang sanggol na pinatay mo na.

2) Pag pinagpatuloy mong madevelop siya hanggang manganak ka, may 8 or 7 months ka para mag-ready.
Maraming paraan para buhayin ang sanggol na iniluwal mo.

Wag kang matakot sa sasabihin ng mga tao sayo.
Matakot ka sa Diyos at sasabihin ng konseniya mo.

and the old saying applies "hindi solusyon sa isang pagkakamali ang isa pang mali."

[JuanBrownout]

Kung ang tanong ay pagpapalaglag.. Simpleng sagot, WAG...
At sa pagsabi sa pamilya mo, simpleng oo...

Mahirap itago ang pagbubuntis. at isa pa, ang pinakauna at pinakahuling masasandalan mo sa mga ganyang bagay o sa kahit anong problema ay walang iba kundi ang pamilya mo. Normal lang na pagalitan ka, pero in the end, sila pa rin ang susuportta sa yo. At graduate ka na, although mahirap magsimula, kailangan mong ayusin buhay mo hindi lang para sayo kundi pati sa anak mo.

Kung magpapa-abort ka, anong makukuha mo? sakit, hirap, guilt, lahat na... At pagpinagpatuloy mo yan, simple lang, magkakaanak ka. Makakaroon ka ng inspirasyon, dahilan para maging masaya, pagandahin ang buhay at mabuhay. Look on the bright side. Isipin mo na hindi ito isang balakid kundi isa itong regalo mula sa Panginoon.

At isa pa. Walang kang karapatan o kahit na sinong tao na tapusin ang buhay ng isang inosenteng sanggol.