Problem with ex-bestie

[stellajane]

Hello again! I noticed that Mukamo people are good in giving smart, unbiased advice so I'd like to ask for some help with a problem. It's about my ex-bestfriend.

Let's call him Jack. We were best friends for 2 years. He's older than me and more well-off but he has family problems so he had a habit of running to me for advice and support. Little by little I noticed that he easily lost his temper with me. As in, super sensitive!

When I get angry with him, he always turned it around to make me feel guilty for being annoyed in the first place. When something went wrong, he tended to blame me but wouldn't accept responsibility for his own actions. Then i found out that he was saying all kinds of mean things about me behind my back to our friends. After all the time I invested in him, ako pa pala ang masama sa kanya. That was the final straw!

I said i never want to hear from him anymore. Then I stopped all kinds of communication with him. It was a stresful time, my bf and I were also on the rocks but that's another problem. Haha! Luckily my job and friends were there to keep me focused on making my life better inspite of my heartaches.

Here's my problem. My friends told me that Jack was still saying nasty things about me like "You're not getting better, you're just getting worse," and he was even accusing me of trying to make him envious because i was spending more time with my friends.

I'm not trying to make him envious. I only wanted to pick up the pieces of my life and put it all back together. Can't he just mind his own business? Should I tell my friends to help me tell Jack to lay off of me, do I confront him myself or do I let it pass?

TIA and more power!

[west]

your friend has some serious issues. kausapin mo siya. tell him to **** off. hindi lang siya ang may problema sa mundo aba.

[ControlG]

better not do anything...he is bitter...bitter..bitter..bitter..nobody likes him...he has no friends and he will die alone

[Rizza]

Just ignore him. he's a waste of time. he'll get tired of it, eventually. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone. Your real friends won't need it kasi kilala ka nila.

[hersmile]

you can confront him if you want, get your thoughts out of your chest. but that seems like his personality naman...so kahit na iconfront mo sya, i doubt he'll stop.

[FreyaLuna]

Jack was still saying nasty things about me like "You're not getting better, you're just getting worse,"

Bitter.

he was even accusing me of trying to make him envious

Small-minded.

Should I tell my friends to help me tell Jack to lay off of me, do I confront him myself or do I let it pass?

Ignore.

By blaming you, he's just projecting his failure as a friend onto you. He just proved you right in cutting him loose. Move on and don't look back.

[kh0let]

may problema yan sa pag- iisip
sabihin mo sa kanya seek a psychology ng manahimik buhay nya



if i were you, wag mo na syang pansinin, hello he's a wasted of time .

[stellajane]

I stopped paying attention to him, my friends too. They also think he's a jerk for his nega attitude and the bad things he said bec. if he did it to me, he will do it to them also. Thanks all! You peeps are the best!

[Chiffon]

you should tell jack why you don't wanna hang out with him anymore. Suddenly pulling out on him would certainly and already made matters worse. Also, may BF ka na. You don't NEED a guy-best-friend when you have a bf. Trust me, your relationship is going to get ugly with some guy like that around one of these days.

the only guy-best-friend you need is your bf. hence they're called that way; "boy friend"

[Raigoki]

psycho! hehe! Stay on that piece of wood rose. let jack freeze to death.

[papADyak]

ignore him he's a jack ass
at least may mga kaibigan ka na mas kilala ka kesa sa kanya
kaya pabayaan mo na lang sya manigas sya sa inggit

[femmedelicieux]

Tell Jack to jack off.

Seriously, if his actions really bother you and you feel your reputation is being destroyed, then send him a formal cease-and-desist letter, specifying the acts you are complaining about, and informing him that if he does not stop those acts within a specified deadline, then you are contemplating taking legal action against him. Let's see if that doesn't scare the sh!t out of him.

If he still doesn't stop, you can report him to the police, or as a last resort, file a libel case against him.

[KillaCrab]

your problems can be settled in the presence of food

Risotto ala KillaCrab

6 cups chicken broth, divided
3 tablespoons olive oil, divided
1 pound portobello mushrooms, thinly sliced
1 pound white mushrooms, thinly sliced
2 shallots, diced
1 1/2 cups Arborio rice
1/2 cup dry white wine
sea salt to taste
freshly ground black pepper to taste
3 tablespoons finely chopped chives
4 tablespoons butter
1/3 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese
3 teaspoon of ground glass

bigyan mo sya nyan

[smilecute68]

psychiatrist or counselor ang kailangan nya. madami siya issues na hindi pa naffix. ignore him na lang at huwag mo na lang sabihan ng anything na against him. may pinagsamahan din kayo kahit papaano. mas lalo hindi nakakatulong sa kanya kung may marinig na hindi maganda.