live in o kasal?

[FreyaLuna]

I agree that sex is a very important factor of a healthy marriage, but it's just like anything else, it can be talked about and you can learn to compromise with each other. Therefore, getting to know each other between the sheets doesn't seem valid enough reason for me.

To an extent it's true that people can discuss their concerns with one another, but it can only go so far. People talk a lot of bullshit all the time and many times what they say isn't congruent with what they do, especially during highly emotionally charged moments like the acts of fighting, falling in love, handling family issues, or having sex.

Of course, engaging in or abstaining from premarital and cohabitant sex is the couple's prerogative. But just like with those who choose to engage, there are also risks that stem from abstinence, and both parties should be aware of and be able to handle the consequences of either decision.

To me, having a kid is a natural instinct and it's selfish to bring a child in this world that you can't even support. I'm starting to agree on the notion that people should be licensed to be able to have kids.

+1 for this. A lot of people keep saying that having a child is a blessing, but if that is the case then why do so many parents force their children to work, subject them to inappropriate disciplinary, health, and educational measures, or simply neglect them? That's part of the bullshit I exemplified earlier -- it's easy to say good things about having children and discuss clear-cut methods for raising them, but when it comes to actual child-rearing, plenty of parents fall short of the ideal that everyone else would rather talk about.

[usuiXmisaki]

married,, with the one you love,,
i mean the right guy..
not just you the title of being married
MARRIED is sacred,,why so many married people end up of divorce or annulment?

its their choice,,but just think about it,,before you get married.

LIVE IN, theirs no assurance of being together,, just another term of a gf/bf relationship
the the difference is you agreed to live in like married people,, but don't have the blessing of GOD.


THINK TWICE

[Raigoki]

Kasal.
why?

Art. 147. When a man and a woman who are capacitated to marry each other, live exclusively with each other as husband and wife without the benefit of marriage or under a void marriage, their wages and salaries shall be owned by them in equal shares and the property acquired by both of them through their work or industry shall be governed by the rules on co-ownership.

In the absence of proof to the contrary, properties acquired while they lived together shall be presumed to have been obtained by their joint efforts, work or industry, and shall be owned by them in equal shares. For purposes of this Article, a party who did not participate in the acquisition by the other party of any property shall be deemed to have contributed jointly in the acquisition thereof if the former’s efforts consisted in the care and maintenance of the family and of the household.

Neither party can encumber or dispose by acts inter vivos of his or her share in the property acquired during cohabitation and owned in common, without the consent of the other, until after the termination of their cohabitation.

When only one of the parties to a void marriage is in good faith, the share of the party in bad faith in the co-ownership shall be forfeited in favor of their common children. In case of default of or waiver by any or all of the common children or their descendants, each vacant share shall belong to the respective surviving descendants. In the absence of descendants, such share shall belong to the innocent party. In all cases, the forfeiture shall take place upon termination of the cohabitation.

Tsaka relihiyoso sya e.

[iamyornursechinggay]

hala.. napost ko yung reply sa rep. i am so sorry. anyway, here's my reply:

Marriage and Cohabitation are two different things. Two people should decide to get married if they are both ready, meaning ready to love each other unconditionally and ready to accept the flaws and weaknesses of each other. That's love. It's a two way process, give and take. If you are so selfish and still not yet ready for these things, then you do not have the right to get married and be a husband or wife of somebody else. In my opinion, cohabitation is an immoral act. It is against the law of people and law of God. You will be criticized by your society and you will be judged by God at the end of your life. But really, I am not against with cohabitation. If you think it will work on you. Then go on, and I do respect your opinions guys..

[ukmac1986]

hala.. napost ko yung reply sa rep. i am so sorry. anyway, here's my reply:

Marriage and Cohabitation are two different things. Two people should decide to get married if they are both ready, meaning ready to love each other unconditionally and ready to accept the flaws and weaknesses of each other. That's love. It's a two way process, give and take. If you are so selfish and still not yet ready for these things, then you do not have the right to get married and be a husband or wife of somebody else. In my opinion, cohabitation is an immoral act. It is against the law of people and law of God. You will be criticized by your society and you will be judged by God at the end of your life. But really, I am not against with cohabitation. If you think it will work on you. Then go on, and I do respect your opinions guys..

It's like saying, go on an cohabitate if it works for you, but you will be stoned to death and burned in hell you filthy little maggots..go on..

[iamyornursechinggay]

haha.. well, we really can not tell others what to do, so if they want to cohabitate then do it.. they just need to face the consequences of their actions..

[ukmac1986]

haha.. well, we really can not tell others what to do, so if they want to cohabitate then do it.. they just need to face the consequences of their actions..

IMHO people who will judge those who cohabitate without marriage should be the ones that needs to be stoned to death..

if god will judge and punish them for not getting married..then that is a god i will never ever worship..

[garysteven]

marriage, others say, is for security
live in, other say, is for convenience

a paper contract doesn't secure you from a cheater nor does a liberal relationship give you any more convenience than your puppet can

rule of thumb is, if you're not sure yet don't get into any of these. if you want to be with your partner most of the times but ain't ready to sign that contract, live in is the way. otherwise, get married.

if only marriage contracts have expiration dates.................

[tosh8701]

kasal! kasal! kasal!

[FreyaLuna]

IMHO people who will judge those who cohabitate without marriage should be the ones that needs to be stoned to death..

if god will judge and punish them for not getting married..then that is a god i will never ever worship..

This post made my day.

[KillaCrab]

who married adam and eve? ...

marriage is a legal construct designed to secure , traditionally, the right of a man over a woman.. ...
and later modified to make sure that if the man is an idiot his balls will be hanged on a sling..

[smilecute68]

kung hindi kailangan mga papers na yan para makuha mga benefits, blah.. blah.. blah..

mas prefer ko ang live in kasi wala naman assurance ang kasal na magiging kayo forever.

[Beah]

kasal parin. unang una sa lahat di ako papakasal kung di kame sure. iba parin ang kasal kc maypinanghahawakan sa isat isa legally. lalo na sa mga babae ganyan dpat practical at wag na rin magloko. isipin nalang ang anak.

[leiger]

Live in to try things out then if decide to get married

[sssy]

kasal, bakit ba. eh gusto ko kasal eh and as far as im concerned. and kasal hindi isang bagay na pinapasok only to get out of it after. or only to get out of it pag nagkaron ng hindi pagkakaunawan which pwedeng pwede mangyari sa live in. easy way out tas ano magkakabalikan na naman. tas hiwalay. ang labo diba. san na ang self respect? unte unte din mawawala? mauubos?

well im not saying na hindi kaya magcommit ng mga gusto lang maglive in at isa pa marami ding kinakasal na nauuwi din sa wala. pero kasal padin ang gusto ko. may exclusivity at malawak na karapatan. pwedeng pwedeng magsampa ng kaso if ever nagkalokohan. hehehehe

Lol. Yan din gusto ko. Bakit ba? I remembered that you were the first one who understood when I jumped to a sudden wedding.

Re pagsasampa ng kaso, please dont forget na ayon sa batas natin, pag nahuli si asawa na nasa aktwal na pakikipagtalik sa ibang babae, your action as the legal wife, no matter how grave it will be, will be considered as normal instinct and reaction lang. Kaya pag sa kin nangyari yun, aantayin ko yung "actual" na kyeme nila, saka ako susugod dala ang tabak.

who the hell is shirley.. was that the last strip tease dancer we err...

Oo nga. Sinu si Shirley?

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Now seriously about the topic:

I have nothing against those who prefer just living together, but I would choose getting married.

Sa parehong sitwasyon kelangan, alam mo kung anung gusto at plano mo.

I agree with sis Azumi that you should get married for the right reasons. Problem with some (some lang po ah) is that they have a vague understanding about the real meaning of marriage. They right away go along with the idea without really spending enough time and understanding kung anu ba talaga to and how to make it really work. More than the title it gives you, marriage spells huge COMMITMENT.

Re live in naman, what are your reasons bakit ka nakipag live in? If you want to test the waters, how much time do you need? You cant and must not allow yourself to stick on this setup for so long just because you and your partner would want to "try". If you choose to live together, set a "trial period". You must not let financial reasons get in your way for the much awaited wedding. Weddings should not be necessarily grand, these should be sincere.