bakit kayo nagtagal as bf/gf/mg-asawa?

[smilecute68]

bakit kayo nagtagal as bf/gf/mg-asawa?

[astig]

Er isn't the answer obvious? Cliche as it sounds love is the answer to that, unless you are a masochist of course.

[suave]

Er isn't the answer obvious? Cliche as it sounds love is the answer to that, unless you are a masochist of course.

On the contrary...

maraming relasyon at marriages ang nagtatagal hindi dahil sa love kundi dahil sa commitment.

[CrazyTal]

Hmmm based on experienced... I stayed in two different... 4 yrs relationship... consecutively... because the love and trust is present at that moment... Since he broke my trust though we tried to work things out... It did not lasts as expected... Trust is really important... even if the love is there...

[Pawster]

if you want your relationship to last... the most important thing is loyalty not faithfulness... throw away the trust but always respect your partner... you don't have to care to be able to love someone... commitment is over-rated, the less you care about your relationship, the less complicated it's gonna be, the less complicated the relationship is, the longer it will last...

hindi natin pwede mandohan ang mga puso natin kung sino ang dapat ibigin, kaya dapat pag nakita mo na yung taong iibigin mo, wag mo naman din sana mandohan kung paano ka nya mamahalin. nwawalan kasi nang meaning eh... di ba mas maganda na yung pinaparamdam niya sayong pagmamahal eh galing talaga sa puso niya hindi dahil yun ang gusto mong gawin niya... kung hindi ka satisfied e di hiwalayan mo, kaysa naman kasal na kayo saka mo malalaman na hangang ganito lang pala kaya niyang i-offer sayo...

malayo ba sagot ko?

[astig]

Well I can say that my marriage is still going strong maybe it's because me and my wife meet each other half-way, walang lamangan.

[azumi]

hope those members who have been married for 10 years or more would share tips here.
This can be a very helpful thread for singles.

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Well I can say that my marriage is still going strong maybe it's because me and my wife meet each other half-way, walang lamangan.

how do you address conflicts in decision-making? like saan kayo titira? or how many kids? where would they study?

what are your hierarchy of priorities?

God/spirituality
Wife/husband
kids
parents

or

Wife/husband
Kids
parents
God

tips please

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On the contrary...
maraming relasyon at marriages ang nagtatagal hindi dahil sa love kundi dahil sa commitment.

ouch. that hurts. no love but commitment.
can you elaborate further please. parang ang lungkot naman ng buhay ko kung nag stay na lang ako with my partner pero di na namin mahal isa't isa

[suave]

if you want your relationship to last... the most important thing is loyalty not faithfulness... throw away the trust but always respect your partner... you don't have to care to be able to love someone... commitment is over-rated, the less you care about your relationship, the less complicated it's gonna be, the less complicated the relationship is, the longer it will last...

hindi natin pwede mandohan ang mga puso natin kung sino ang dapat ibigin, kaya dapat pag nakita mo na yung taong iibigin mo, wag mo naman din sana mandohan kung paano ka nya mamahalin. nwawalan kasi nang meaning eh... di ba mas maganda na yung pinaparamdam niya sayong pagmamahal eh galing talaga sa puso niya hindi dahil yun ang gusto mong gawin niya... kung hindi ka satisfied e di hiwalayan mo, kaysa naman kasal na kayo saka mo malalaman na hangang ganito lang pala kaya niyang i-offer sayo...

malayo ba sagot ko?

wat if kasal na kayo then di ka na satisfied nung nagtagal?
then what?

dyan papasok ang commitment... at sa palagy ko di yun over-rated..
sa ganang akin lang...

i respect your opinion pawster..

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hope those members who have been married for 10 years or more would share tips here.
This can be a very helpful thread for singles.

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how do you address conflicts in decision-making? like saan kayo titira? or how many kids? where would they study?

what are your hierarchy of priorities?

God/spirituality
Wife/husband
kids
parents

or

Wife/husband
Kids
parents
God

tips please

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ouch. that hurts. no love but commitment.
can you elaborate further please. parang ang lungkot naman ng buhay ko kung nag stay na lang ako with my partner pero di na namin mahal isa't isa

well ms. azumi...

nangyayari yan after marriage...

marami akong nakaka-usap na mas matatanda sa akin, ang mag-asawa daw kapag tumagal ay parang magkapatid na lang na magkasama sa isang bahay pero nagsi-sex paminsan minsan at nasasabi nila ang mga sumusunod na dahilan kung bakit nasa marriage pa rin sila kahit medyo nagfade na ang love:

1. dahil sa mga anak.
2. dahil sa kasal na sila, panindigan na lang.
3. dahil sa responsibilidad sa pamilya.

Dyan papasok ang commitment. Dahil once kasal ka na, naniniwala ang karamihan sa atin na there is no turning back. Divorce & annulment eh pang mayaman at artista lang yan.

I'm not saying staying because of commitment is good. But it happens.

Yan ang dahilan kung bakit may mga battered wives. Yan ang dahilan kung bakit nanatili ang karamihan sa marriage.

love is an emotion... it fades...
commitment to love is a state of mind... it will last...
for as long as you want it to last.

[Rizza]

We have the same emotional stability.
We're friends first and I'm a firm believer in friends make the best bfs.

[astig]

hope those members who have been married for 10 years or more would share tips here.
This can be a very helpful thread for singles.

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how do you address conflicts in decision-making? like saan kayo titira? or how many kids? where would they study?

what are your hierarchy of priorities?

God/spirituality
Wife/husband
kids
parents

or

Wife/husband
Kids
parents
God

tips please

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ouch. that hurts. no love but commitment.
can you elaborate further please. parang ang lungkot naman ng buhay ko kung nag stay na lang ako with my partner pero di na namin mahal isa't isa

Well we try to take everything in perspective, we've been married more than 5 years but bf/gf for 6 years before we got married and priority is always each other and our kids at first place. I'm glad we are not one of those couples who just stay together because of commitment and not love, in fact I can say we have both. One reason we stayed together so long is because we talk and listen to each other, not gossip or small talk but really talk. We never go to sleep if we have arguments or misunderstandings and always make sure all things are good and settled before we sleep. Plus of course it is always good to keep intimate with each other, a lot of times married couples lose intimacy after they have kids...

[idarine]

if you want your relationship to last... the most important thing is loyalty not faithfulness... throw away the trust but always respect your partner... you don't have to care to be able to love someone... commitment is over-rated, the less you care about your relationship, the less complicated it's gonna be, the less complicated the relationship is, the longer it will last...

hindi natin pwede mandohan ang mga puso natin kung sino ang dapat ibigin, kaya dapat pag nakita mo na yung taong iibigin mo, wag mo naman din sana mandohan kung paano ka nya mamahalin. nwawalan kasi nang meaning eh... di ba mas maganda na yung pinaparamdam niya sayong pagmamahal eh galing talaga sa puso niya hindi dahil yun ang gusto mong gawin niya... kung hindi ka satisfied e di hiwalayan mo, kaysa naman kasal na kayo saka mo malalaman na hangang ganito lang pala kaya niyang i-offer sayo...

malayo ba sagot ko?

agree ako dito...pag kayo talaga..kayo..