Would you still love him?

**azumi** · 06-07-2012, 10:31 PM

Here's another love dilemma
(kwento ng friend ko na adik sa radyo pag patak ng 9pm)

You have a bf.
You went to a party with him and friends.

You wake up in someone else's bed.
You're naked.
Obviously, someone had sex with you but you have no idea who.
You can't remember anything except you had fun in the party with your bf and friends.
Deep in your heart, it was like rape.
You did not know so consent could not be established.

You call your bf and also did not have any idea how you ended up in that situation. That incident took its toll on your relationship until things between you fell apart, you broke up and he decided to work abroad.

Here you are depressed and hurting.
Your ex could not accept what happened to you and neither do you.
A lot of questions remained unanswered by both you and your ex.
Then you find a shoulder to lean on in your ex's bestfriend.
Little by little, you cope up with your nightmare.
You were so broken and lost but with his help, you were able to face life anew.

Then you fell for him.
Your relationship is going stronger with 3 years you've been together.
he proposed and now you're engaged to him.
Your ex's bestfriend is now your future husband.

He now comes to you,
confessing his love for you eversince he met you as his bestfriend's girl...
and then confessing to you the night of your nightmare...that it was him who raped you. That he did that because he loved you so much and he is asking for your forgiveness before you two take the vow of marriage.

It was a shock.
All the feelings that morning that you woke up naked all came back.
But now you know who's the mastermind
and now you know whom to blame.

You can't forgive him.
You walked out and ran as far as you could from your rapist fiance.
He keeps calling your phone and texting you but you could not take it.
It was just so painful and shocking at the same time.

You cry yourself to sleep somewhere no one knows.
You wake up and mom's calling.

Your fiance is in the hospital.
ICU. Comatose.
Car accident.

Would you forgive him?
If he survives and lives and still want to marry you, would you marry him?

**bishop** · 06-07-2012, 10:40 PM

Originally Posted by azumi

Would you forgive him?
If he survives and lives and still want to marry you, would you marry him?

Again, we look at the premise of the situation.

He (the ex's bestfried) says he loves the girl, and that is the reason he raped her??

In what Universe will that make any sense?

You (the girl) fell in love with a person who initiated the relationship under false pretenses, by:

#1. Raping;
#2. Lying about it.

Bible says that "Love is patient".

If the guy really and truly loved the girl, then why couldn't he approach and tell her? Why could he not be "patient" and wait for her. Wait until they are married and then she will give freely of herself to him.
Do you take away something precious from someone you "truly love"??? - I dare say 'no'. Not in any lifetime, and not in this Universe.

Do you lie to someone you love? Lying is deception whichever way you turn it around.

So do you decieve someone you love?

For the girl, answer these questions and you will have your answers.

**Chiffon** · 06-07-2012, 10:46 PM

diba sa channel 7 tong storya nito?

I'm not sure ah pero nakwento lang sakin nung talyer-man habang inaantay ko matapos yung ginagawa nila =/

...still a rapist if you ask me. In the first place however, the girl shouldn't be drinking to the point of losing control in a place with a bunch of guys.

**azumi** · 06-07-2012, 10:50 PM

hindi chiff, sa radyo daw to. Kay Papa Jack.

hmm, hindi naman ata nagpakalasing yung girl eh.
I think pareho sila ng bf niya na napa-inom siguro ng pampa-tulog or something like that kasi pati yung bf eh hindi alam kung pano nangyari...

**sweeT Tooth** · 06-07-2012, 10:52 PM

parang napapanood ko to sa channel 7 ah

--
feeling girl my answer is: no!
keyword is raped,

Quote:

that it was him who raped you

he even admits that it was rape, not consensual.

why tie myself to a guy who violated me?

side note:
where was my boyfriend during all of this, i mean we came to a party together how come i`m in bed and he`s nowhere in sight?

**bishop** · 06-07-2012, 10:58 PM

Originally Posted by azumi

hindi chiff, sa radyo daw to. Kay Papa Jack.

hmm, hindi naman ata nagpakalasing yung girl eh.
I think pareho sila ng bf niya na napa-inom siguro ng pampa-tulog or something like that kasi pati yung bf eh hindi alam kung pano nangyari...

Azumi,

Still, there is such a thing as Prudence and Common Sense.

If you were to begin a journey without those two, where would you expect to end up?

It's like if you smoke 5 packs of cigarette a day and end up having lung cancer, you can't start to question whether the cigarette company should be held liable for what happened to you.

..you follow?

**azumi** · 06-07-2012, 11:04 PM

ah baka same story sa 7 to. adik yung kumare ko kasi kay Papa Jack
kaya kwento lagi yung callers ni Papa Jack and eto nga last week na caller daw to.

Baka yung caller napanood niya sa 7 tapos nag pretend siya kay Papa Jack na ganyan ang nangyari sa kanya

---------- Post added at 11:04 PM ---------- Previous post was at 10:59 PM ----------

Originally Posted by bishop

Azumi,

Still, there is such a thing as Prudence and Common Sense.

If you were to begin a journey without those two, where would you expect to end up?

It's like if you smoke 5 packs of cigarette a day and end up having lung cancer, you can't start to question whether the cigarette company should be held liable for what happened to you.

..you follow?

But B, if ever you invite me and everyone else here to an EB party and then some of us confirm to come and the fact that some mukamo members whom i trust and are already my friends would come too so I decide to also attend this party of yours and then I wake up in someone else's bed, naked but I could not remember what happened...do you blame me for attending your party?

**bishop** · 06-07-2012, 11:14 PM

Originally Posted by azumi

But B, if ever you invite me and everyone else here to an EB party and then some of us confirm to come and the fact that some mukamo members whom i trust and are already my friends would come too so I decide to also attend this party of yours and then I wake up in someone else's bed, naked but I could not remember what happened...do you blame me for attending your party?

azumi,

The prudence and common sense, is not on whether you come to the party or not.

But what you do during the party.

Let me give you a concrete example.

Here in the US, Driving Under the Influence (DUI or Driving Drunk) is strictly enforced. (unlike in the Phils.)

So if you plan to go to a party and you are driving your own vehicle. And in this party you plan to get really drunk, you are not being responsible.

The prudent thing to do is if you are planning to get drunk, prior to going to the party, you ask your friend who plans NOT TO DRINK to drive you to the party. And then drive you back home AFTER.

And I concure with what Sweetooth said. "where was the boy friend in all this"?

If the boy friend is truly responsible and loves the girl, then:

#1. He would be looking after the girl during the party. See to it that she is not endangered in any way or is drinking way too much.

#2. Make sure that she is safe in going back home.

**azumi** · 06-07-2012, 11:21 PM

I did not drink in your party B. I don't drink and drive.
But someone in your party has put something in my iced tea and it tasted good and after that I don't know what happened.

I am basing on the assumption that the girl and her boyfriend are both in good faith.
Their friends are in good faith too but someone is in bad faith.

**Chiffon** · 06-07-2012, 11:27 PM

but then diyan na pumasok yung bf...nasan si bf nun? na knock out na pala ang gf niya, di man lang siya nagtaka till morning?

**bishop** · 06-07-2012, 11:33 PM

Originally Posted by azumi

I did not drink in your party B. I don't drink and drive.
But someone in your party has put something in my iced tea and it tasted good and after that I don't know what happened.

I am basing on the assumption that the girl and her boyfriend are both in good faith.
Their friends are in good faith too but someone is in bad faith.

azumi,

Their friends are in good faith too but someone is in bad faith<-- does this answer your initial question?

"Would you forgive him?
If he survives and lives and still want to marry you, would you marry him? "

And as an after thought...

Was the boyfriend also drugged? Did he also "pass out"?

If not, where was he?

**azumi** · 06-07-2012, 11:35 PM

yan yung part ng story na malabo eh...kase hindi din daw alam nung BF eh. so siguro naunang pina-inom ng pampatulog si BF tapos pinahatid na siya sa ibang tropa without the girl knowing na una palang ni-knock out yung bf niya.... hula ko lang yan kasi dko alam yung whole story.

**Aga Mulat** · 06-07-2012, 11:36 PM

I knew that si "sir" was trouble from the beginning!!

**FreyaLuna** · 06-08-2012, 11:31 AM

Originally Posted by azumi

Would you forgive him?
If he survives and lives and still want to marry you, would you marry him?

Perhaps I can forgive him in time, but the wedding is off. Rape is rape. It scars the victim for life. Under no circumstances does love precede it.

On second thought, if he had raped me, mamatay na lang siya.

**ControlG** · 06-08-2012, 11:51 AM

magfile ka ng kaso..bat nakipagtalik siya na hindi mo alam..paano ka masasarapan niyan..