Ayaw magpatingin sa doctor

[suave]

Ano ang gagawin mo kung ganito ang sitwasyon mo?

Limang taon na kayong nagsasama bilang mag asawa.
Regular naman at active ang sex life nyo.
Kaso di talaga kayo makabuo.
Dahil curios ka nagpatingin ka sa doctor pero di mo sinabi sa asawa mo.
Ok naman daw at healthy ka naman at capable ka naman daw na makabuo.
So isang gabi, sinabi mo sa asawa mo, “Hon, magpatingin kaya tayong dalawa sa doctor?”
Tumanggi sya, sabi nya ayaw nya.
Nagtanong ka kung bakit.
Basta daw ayaw nya.

Paano mo sya mapapapayag na magpakunsulta kayo together?

[jaenard]

hihilahin ko siya sa doctor..
hehe..
joke lang..

basta dadalhin ko siya sa doctor. kunwari papasama ako.. :p

[ukmac1986]

parang ayaw nya sumama dahil takot sya na bka meron syang dipirensya at pag nalaman nyo ito, magbago ka at maghanap ng iba..wala ng ibang sulusyon kundi open communication sa inyong dalawa..paliwanag mo na kung anu man ang maging resulta, sabay nyo itong kakayanin at reresolbahin at hindi magbabago ang pagtingin mo sa kanya..

pag hindi padin sumama, kaladkadin mo na tol.

[garysteven]

the guy should bring it up in a non-serious kind of way

it's possible that the woman is afraid of what the result will be. assuring her that whatever happens he'll stick by her is one good way of making her more receptive to the idea of testing.

if it fails, he can tell his wife that he will go out and undergo testing as he fears he has a fertility problem (though he knows he doesn't).

otoh, it's also good that they can have sex with reckless abandon unlike other couples who need to take lots of precaution

[Shinobi73]

Worse case scenario:

1. Wife is afraid she is not capable of handling children or is basically not ready to have kids because of career or she just does not want to have kids - she's taking the pill or some form of contraception and did not tell you

2. Wife is taking contraception because aside from the fact that she is having sex with you she also has other partners and would want to be sure she does not get unwanted pregnancy - she's cheating on you.

bringing her to the doctor in both cases would expose her use of the contraceptive - better be ready for the truth.

[Soulless]

parang ayaw nya sumama dahil takot sya na bka meron syang dipirensya at pag nalaman nyo ito, magbago ka at maghanap ng iba..wala ng ibang sulusyon kundi open communication sa inyong dalawa..paliwanag mo na kung anu man ang maging resulta, sabay nyo itong kakayanin at reresolbahin at hindi magbabago ang pagtingin mo sa kanya..

pag hindi padin sumama, kaladkadin mo na tol.

Tama ka jan boss, mag babago nga ang mag partner pag alam nila kung sino man ang my deperinsya sa kanila..

[tosh8701]

tama! baka iniisip nya iiwanan mo sya pag nalaman mong may diperensya sya. sabihin mo na dika naman magbabago ano man maging result ng check up nyo. mahal mo sya at di mo sya ipagpapalit!

[hersmile]

wow...shinobi's comment is really thinking outside the box lol.

anyways, i've had a somewhat similar situation. well, my dad didn't want to go get checked-up with a specialist. he already did 2 tests and he was prescribed to see a specialist because they found something on him. he refused to go. we had done all different kinds of talk with him, my mother even gave him the silent treatment for a week. nothing seemed to work, cuz he thinks there's nothing wrong with him. we all ganged up on him and talked to him non-stop. it was actually more on nagging. eventually it worked. he agreed to go just to make us leave him alone lol.

it's different, but sorta the same idea i guess. so for our dad, annoying the heck out of him worked lol

[ukmac1986]

mahirap yan, kung publemado na sya sa hindi nila pagkakaron ng anak, tas i-pressure mo pa at kulitin araw araw, lalong nakaka depress yun siguro.. tingin ko lang ha..

[suave]

Worse case scenario:

1. Wife is afraid she is not capable of handling children or is basically not ready to have kids because of career or she just does not want to have kids - she's taking the pill or some form of contraception and did not tell you

2. Wife is taking contraception because aside from the fact that she is having sex with you she also has other partners and would want to be sure she does not get unwanted pregnancy - she's cheating on you.

bringing her to the doctor in both cases would expose her use of the contraceptive - better be ready for the truth.

si shinobi talaga.... hahaha...

una, ukmac di po ako ang involved dito. hehehe. magkaka-baby na kami ni misis eh.

pangalawa, shinobi wala naman yata akong sinabing babae ang ayaw pumunta sa doktor... hehehe... ano naman ang masasabi mo kung lalake ang ayaw magpatingin?

[ukmac1986]

ganun ba tol akala ko ikaw eh.. edi, congratulations nalang at welcome to the club!

[Aga Mulat]

Oferan mo nalang ng maghahanap ka ng magpapabuntis upang isilang ang iyong anak.

[Chiffon]

meron ako pasyente dati na nagpapa inject ng gamot sa balikat to make her fertile. I forgot the name of the drug pero the point is, mayroong mairerecommend ang OB ninyo kung ikaw naman ay ok. Or, you could try having intercourse during her "non-safe-days". Kung may android ka naman, download ka lang nung menstural cycle calculator and indicate ni misis kung kelan siya nagkaka period. pwedeng tantiyahin dun kung kelan siya most likely na fertile. (kung regular ang cycle niya)

[Shinobi73]

si shinobi talaga.... hahaha...

una, ukmac di po ako ang involved dito. hehehe. magkaka-baby na kami ni misis eh.

pangalawa, shinobi wala naman yata akong sinabing babae ang ayaw pumunta sa doktor... hehehe... ano naman ang masasabi mo kung lalake ang ayaw magpatingin?

Hehe based ko lang kasi sa iyo yung reply since your the guy pero kung guy mostly pride lang yan eh. The idea that a man can never have kids may sound appealing to cheaters and philanderers pero in reality sa lalake ibig sabihin nyan useless ka.

Women kasi can still have artificial insemination and can still experience pregnancy while guys external ang involvment natin dyan eh. Kung wla kang tinanim wala kang worth

---------- Post added at 10:29 PM ---------- Previous post was at 10:22 PM ----------

wow...shinobi's comment is really thinking outside the box lol.

Well women are smarter now and have more control over their bodies and what they want. Most women i've met are career oriented and would like to have the "choice" on when they want to have a child this way they're sure to be able to take care of the family.

But there are also women that would like to enjoy life and marriage and having kids can hinder that. I have a friend that got married and she decided not to have kids until 5yrs after. The couple enjoyed their 5 years as newly weds! Working and traveling and enjoying themselves so nung ready na sila 5 yrs later tutok naman sila sa kids

And then there are those who have their own personal and private reasons. C'mon hindi naman tayo lahat malinis at the very least they're careful not to get unwanted pregnancy from enjoying an active "lifestyle"

[Aga Mulat]

meron ako pasyente dati na nagpapa inject ng gamot sa balikat to make her fertile. I forgot the name of the drug pero the point is, mayroong mairerecommend ang OB ninyo kung ikaw naman ay ok. Or, you could try having intercourse during her "non-safe-days". Kung may android ka naman, download ka lang nung menstural cycle calculator and indicate ni misis kung kelan siya nagkaka period. pwedeng tantiyahin dun kung kelan siya most likely na fertile. (kung regular ang cycle niya)

Chiffon, ang tunay na nangyari jan ay yung inin-ject ay pampatulog. Kasi nagtataka yung mag asawa kung bakit kahawig nung duktor yung anak eh?